Coping with Couples’ Different Sleep Needs


There is no doubting the importance of a good night of sleep. It is crucial to help you be more productive, be in a better mood, help you concentrate and reduce your risk for many diseases and ailments.

While many get quality sleep every night, others struggle. This is especially true for couples, in many cases. Of course, not all couples struggle when it comes to sleep, but many will. This is largely because many couples will have different sleep needs.

They may like different firmness levels on a mattress, different temperature in the bedroom or even have different sleep cycles. Thankfully, having different sleep needs than your partner doesn’t mean the relationship is doomed to fail.

With that in mind, this article is going to go over some tips on how couples can cope with different sleep needs and still get a quality night of sleep.

Choose the Right Mattress and Accessories

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The mattress you sleep on is perhaps the most important part of your sleep. You need to choose the right mattress for couples that is right for not only you, but also your partner. Take the time to research and potentially even try a few. Thankfully, there are many mattresses out there that allow you to customize each side. If not, there are toppers or other accessories out there that can change one side of a mattress without disturbing the other.

In some cases, it may make more sense to choose two mattresses. If you and your partner sleep and wake at different times on certain days, try to have a separate bed for one of you to sleep in from time to time. This can be a good way to ensure you both get a good sleep without waking the other.

Respect the Needs of One Another

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If you have different sleep needs than your partner, you need to do all you can to respect their needs. If they like to go to bed earlier than you, don’t stay up watching an action movie on full volume. And if you need to get up at 5 AM for work and your partner at 7 AM, don’t make a ton of noise in the morning, if at all possible.

This is simply about respecting the needs and preferences of your partner, and they will certainly appreciate it. This isn’t always easy, but it can certainly be done. By using these sorts of techniques, you and your partner can coexist in a healthy way, without constantly waking the other up or stopping them from going to sleep.

Make Compromises

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Making compromises is one of the best and most important ways to cope with different sleep needs. While it isn’t perfect for either person, it stops one of you from getting the short end of the stick all the time. There can be a wide range of different compromises made for each of you to be able to deal with the sleep needs or habits of the other.

These compromises could be about the time you go to bed, what sort of sound is in the bedroom, how cool or warm it is, or even the kind of blankets or mattress that is used. For example, if you like to sleep at 11 PM, but your partner at 10 PM, consider trying 10:30 PM and see how that works.

If you don’t make compromises, and each do your own thing with little regard for the other person, it will be a disaster. Not everything needs to be a compromise, but sprinkling in a few here and there can help make coping with these differences easier.

In conclusion, we hope that this article has been able to help you successfully cope with the differing sleep needs of your partner.

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