Romance According to Bikers
By Night Train©
Affinities (plural noun): a spontaneous or natural liking or sympathy for someone or something; a similarity of characteristics suggesting a relationship, especially a resemblance in structure between animals, plants, or languages; relationship, especially by marriage as opposed to blood ties; the degree to which a substance tends to combine with another.
You know that sweet bond when you are with someone dear to you? When nothing else matters? When you get lost in each other? When you abandon yourself in each other? When you are game for anything and everything because there is absolute mutual trust and respect… and chemistry of course! Let’s not forget about the power of chemistry—LOL! Be it at 5mph or 100mph+ the state of mind you enter as a couple on a bike is so sweetly powerful that I believe those who started the expression “Riding bitch” were simply aware and profoundly jealous of what they knew they could not have.
When my girlfriend rides on the back of my bike going 80mph+, it’s pure magic. When I ride as a couple, I truly feel I am in a different dimension; a gateway for our souls to meet, touch, and dance. Every ride as a couple is an infusion of peace to both hearts. Heck, when I divorced, I remember looking for opportunities to take passengers I barely knew just so I could experience that sensation again. If you are with someone who does not share your passion for riding, they will never understand, and you will most probably end up splitting. Oh how many broken men have I met who “had to sell their ride” or whatnot because their other half no longer approved!!! I could read the pain on their faces. It is as if violence was done to the fabric of their being. A true biker will understand that. If however you are one of the lucky ones like me and you are with someone who loves or at least cares about riding, count your blessings my friend and make sure you nurture that. When she utters the words “let’s go ride”, I know we are in a good place and beautiful moments are coming. When she holds you and signals her tender sentiments by a simple caress or a kiss on your neck. When she lets you grab her butt at a traffic light with an audience to shock behind. Simply put, I adore those moments on two wheels with her and I pray to God for a long life doing just that.
I logged about 300 hours of combined counseling when I divorced. There was tons of homework and reading to do. No one forced me, it was my choice. I wanted to get to the bottom of my issues so I could have and offer a better future to a willing heart. I don’t care what some of you may think, it was worth it. One of the most important things I learned about was “affinities”. Yep, my counselor boldly declared “opposites attract, yes, because they initially feel they can complete each other. Truth is, when monotony of life happens, after a while they realize they don’t have much at all in common. That is usually a painful realization giving birth to the end of the relationship”. “Affinities” between two individuals are essentially common interests and passions they both have and share. They bring unity and bind hearts.
If you talk with anyone who rides that has ridden as a couple on the same bike or on separate bikes, their faces light up when they talk about it. Usually words are hard to come up to describe it. The experience is like “cerebral tango”; a freaking hot, classy, elegant, bold, sexy, fearless, and powerful dance between two souls. Reminds me of the movie “Scent of a Woman” with Al Pacino where he plays Lt Colonel Frank Slade, a blind and highly decorated military vet.
As Lt Colonel Frank Slade said “If you make a mistake and get all tangled up, you just tango on.”
Ride on folks and happy tango!
*Photo credit: Lecia McDermott
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