Many say that you will find your partner when you least hope. As ridiculous as it may seem, it stems from not being desperate to find someone. When you are desperate, you seem more anxious, more eager, and you may be a little too much for a potential partner, as opposed to passive partner seeking. When you are passively seeking a partner, you are much calmer in your quest and do not come off as too eager.
However, making yourself ready to love when you find a partner is a much higher priority than actually finding one. Here is a simple guide on how to find your lifelong partner.
Open yourself to new things
Actively trying to find a new partner can get tiring. Going out to bars, always looking at people, trying to figure them out, asking yourself whether they are single or not; if they are your type apart from a physical appearance, their likes and dislikes… it can be difficult being out there.
However, there is an easier way. Open yourself up to the possibility of online dating.
If you are a busy entrepreneur who simply lacks time to go out and try to meet new people, only to find out that you are polar opposites, a dating agency from Sydney will do that for you.
One of the many perks of online dating is that it saves time. Your profile only matches up to people of similar interest, and those whose lifelong goals can be compatible.
Similar is better
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While many people perceive that polar opposites attract, it may be correct, but as a short-term relationship. You may learn something new from a completely different person from yourself, but in the long run, being with someone who has similar views on life is a smarter choice.
Being with someone who has strong views that are not so compatible with your own can become tiring—constantly having to explain yourself, and always bickering about who is right.
People who have a corresponding outlook on life will be steadier partners. Say you like to spend your Sundays lounging and doing nothing, while your partner likes hiking—such a simple, yet striking example. A compromise is possible, but it requires a lot of communication, patience, and will, which not many people seem to possess these days.
Be emotionally available
For any relationship to be successful and healthy, you need to work on your relationship with yourself first. How can you expect to love anyone else if you don’t love yourself?
We all carry emotional baggage, from our childhood, and from past relationships. And in order to thrive in any type of romantic commitment, you need to take care of that baggage in a healthy way and not suppress it, hoping it will go away.
To be emotionally stable, and available for your lifelong partner, you need to effectively recognize your problems and work on solving them. Some emotional baggage takes years to shake off, but merely trying to solve it still counts.
Renovate a house together
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Smart people do not value their partners in good times, but in bad. Even the marriage vows state: In sickness and in health, for better or for worse.
You never know a person until you’ve seen them at their worst. How they approach a problem, what type of reaction they have, how they are at communicating what troubles them, how they treat you — are all the best indicators if the person in question is a suitable partner for the long run.
Renovating a house together will provide you with all the answers — you will have ups and downs, choices to make, money to spend wisely, and if a disaster occurs, it will show you whether you need to get out that door and be thankful the opportunity gave you an insight into your possible future.
If they react to your liking, congratulations — you have a house of your dreams with the person that suits you. If not — good riddance!
Finding a quality partner to walk with you is not always the simplest of tasks. However, you need to remain hopeful and open to new experiences.
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